11th Nov, 2007

Church Is All About Fun

A good friend of ours recently shared a story about his eleven-year old son. Their family attends a fairly large, conservative evangelical church. Our friend and his wife are serious about their responsibility to disciple their children to follow Jesus and don’t hesitate to dialogue with him about difficult issues. One of the youth and children’s workers at their church had recently told our friend that it was really hard to get the kids’ attention at church, particularly the kids who had grown up in church and whose parents were always in church. Given the fact that his son was in that same group of kids he thought he might have some opinions about it. So, he asked his son while driving in the car one day.

“I hear that many of the kids don’t really listen that much at church and your teacher has a hard time keeping their attention. Why do you think that is?”

The response stunned him. After a few seconds of quiet, his son responded:

“Well, Dad, the main thing they teach us in church is that church is to have fun. They really ought to be tougher on us.”

Think about your church and its children’s program. Does it focus more on having fun than it does on making disciples of Jesus? The two are not mutually exclusive, but we must not put our focus on the wrong target. Is church all about having fun?

Responses

Bryan:

Wow…thanks for posting this.

I have always despised the way churches (and schools, and other institutions) patronize kids. Kids aren’t expected to have a good aesthetic (i.e. they get really dumbed-down lyrics set to bad music), nor are they expected to have any spiritual convictions, questions, or needs of their own.

I keep reading about how children don’t necessarily follow in the faith of their parents. Perhaps the reason for this is that there is no real priority placed on the spiritual development/discipleship of children in our churches?

Of course, the wake up call isn’t just for the churches, although I do believe it is a fair statement about many churches’ children’s program. And, the real culprit may be the worship of money over following Jesus as churches feel pressure to compete for families who can foot the bills and therefore they put together “attractive” kids’ programs.

Nonetheless, parents have the first responsibility for training up their children in the way that they should go and I think your last sentence could say just as easily that “perhaps the reason for this is there is no real priority placed on the spiritual development/discipleship of children in our homes.”

Yes, indeed, Bryan.

I sometimes wonder if parents, because of the parent -child relationship, have a hard time seeing their kids as their own brothers and sisters in Christ.

Sounds like the similar conversation that I overheard between the kids in my mini-van!! :D

My theory is that children are capable of far more than our culture gives them credit for. OTOH, I also happen to believe that church is not the place for a college lecture (sermon) … kids aren’t capable of that, necessarily. But neither are most adults if we’re really honest with ourselves. What if church became about the things that energized and inspired us each week? What if, instead of listening to a lecture, we engaged with each other, including the children … and learned from and with each other? WOW! That would be a whole new dynamic and it could take us to new places. It might even take our children with us.

Yes, if we acted like we were organisms in one living body… wait, i think that isn’t a novel idea… doesn’t Paul talk about that??

Anyway, great comments Sonja! That would be great. Our experience at The King’s Lodge in England (a YWAM base) was a lot like that.

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